I am a swinger from Portland Oregon. I have been swinging for approximately three years now, and I think it is the greatest thing since sliced bread. I am always trying to recruit people into the lifestyle. Oh, that is what we swingers like to call ourselves; we are in “the lifestyle.”

Whenever I talk to other people about being in the lifestyle, they always ask me why I think they should become a swinger. I like to emphasize the three most important aspects of swinging: getting to live out your wildest fantasies, making the relationship with your mate stronger, and making the best friends you could ever imagine!

To begin, most people have misconceptions about swinging. They think we are sex crazed, amoral outcasts of society. The truth, however, is that we are responsible people with jobs, families, and friends. I am a professional writer, while my wife is business woman. We are just as morally centered as any one else. We did not chose swinging because we were bored with life or each other, or because our relationship was not good.

We kind of fell into swinging after about six years of marriage. We had a terrific sex life, but we had always talked about perhaps bringing a woman into the bedroom. To make a long story short, an opportunity presented itself one night in the form of a woman flirting with both of us at a bar. We brought her home, and had the most incredible night of sexual pleasure that either of us had ever experienced. After that we were hooked. We already knew a couple who were swingers, so we asked if we could go to one of their parties. We have been in the lifestyle ever since.

Three Points To Consider

Now, onto the incredible benefits of living the lifestyle.

First, you get to live out your wildest fantasies. As I mentioned before, my wife and I had a great sex life before we started swinging; but we had some fantasies that we could not fulfill alone.

Have you ever wanted to be with two women at the same time? Has your wife ever wanted to be with two men at the same time? Have you ever wanted to be in a room with ten different naked women, and get to take your pick of them? Would you want to experience an orgy? All of these experiences and more can be had in the lifestyle.

Furthermore, because swinging is usually done at a party, there are often toys and apparatuses as well. I had never even seen a sex swing before going to a swinger party, but I sure am glad I have now!

Second, your relationship actually gets stronger. It seems counter-intuitive, but when a couple swings, they find out even more about their mate than they ever knew. Fulfilling sexual fantasy and bringing pleasure to your spouse makes her lover you even more. Plus, sexual discovery can lead to learning about oneself and one’s significant other.

If your mate experiences something they enjoy, then you can emulate that in your own sexual play. After a party, we are always teaching each other the new techniques we learned, and it makes our sex lives even better. Furthermore, I feel closer to her, knowing that we can share each other, and yet we still love each other. That my friends is true love!

Third, you make incredible friends! Most of the lifestyle interactions take place at a party. There are people talking and laughing and having a terrific time. I have had some of the most intellectual conversations at these parties, too; so it is not all silly banter either.

You see a lot of the same people, because the swinger scene is a close knit one. Sharing a sexual experience with friends is kind of like going on vacation with them, and it evokes intense feelings of camaraderie.

Trust me, all you have to do is try the lifestyle once, and you will be hooked, too. When you consider the benefits of living out your fantasies, strengthening your relationship, and creating new friendships; the choice is a no brainer.