Adult Dating Tips

Have you ever been ripped off by an adult dating site? It is not a good feeling.

You spend a lot of time and often a lot of money to find a date online just to come to the realization that you have been ripped off and there was never a chance of meeting any of your matches in person and having a real sex.

Many dishonest dating sites use computer software to generate fake profiles and send out automatic messages to fool you into thinking they are real.

If you learn how to spot these computer automated messages, they are fairly easy to avoid. Even if you do happen to find a real person to chat with, you have to worry about whether that person is who they say they are and whether or not they are an employee of the company.

That is right. Many fake dating sites have their employees maintain many of their profiles and send out messages to potential members to fool them into thinking they are going to have a genuine experience.

Many companies will admit to this in their terms and conditions. Just be aware of creative wording and fraudulent practices being hidden in the text.

• Read the Terms and Conditions: This should be a no-brainer, but unfortunately, many people still enter a site blindly without reading this very important document. Often; fake sex dating sites will outline their dishonest tactics here and assume that no one will bother reading it. Do not be one of those guys. This will help you avoid a lot of bad sites and leave you with more time and money for the real ones.
• Do Not Pay for a Site that Claims to be FREE: There are a few legit dating sites that charge a membership fee and they tell you what that membership fee is before you sign in. Bogus sites string you along with banners and announcements in huge letters claiming that they are 100% free for life. If you enter a free site, it should remain free. If you are asked for your credit card info to use the site’s features or verify your identity, it is not a legit site.
• Do a Reverse Image Search: If you arrive at a dating site with profiles that look too good to be true, do a reverse image search on some of the profile pictures. You are sure to notice that many of these pictures appear on porn sites all over the internet. This is a sure sign of a fraud and you should leave the site immediately.
• Analyze the Messages You Receive: This one is a little tricky, but you will get the hang of it. Watch for patterns and repeated phrases in the messages you receive. Ask some questions. If they do not answer clearly and respond with another generic message, it is fake. Also, watch for overly flirty messages at the end of your billing cycle, even if they seem real. They could be an employee.

Now, follow all of these rules and I guarantee you will easily find many adult sex dates. Make sure you take a look at my recommended sites.

I wish you a lot of an adult fun.

For those of you who do not know; NSA stands for No Strings Attached. To have an NSA hookup means that you have casual sex with no ties to that person or pressure of commitment. If you want a little NSA sex; here are a few rules to live by:

1. Do not use your heart to hook up – If you are a hopeless romantic, you are not cut out for adult sex dating. If you want casual sex, replace romantic with cool, fun and sexy. You do not want to sweep her off her feet when all you want is to put her feet behind her head.
2. Be aloof – It might be tacky to come out and say “be aloof” but you need to be aloof. Being aloof means you are cool with the situation. Be sure that your aloofness does not turn into you being an asshole.
3. Do not be a jerk – Just because all you want is sex does not mean you should act like all you want is sex. Treat her like a human being, just do not get all lovey dovey. You do not want her to get the wrong idea and think you want a relationship.
4. Do not be needy – Do not let your want get ahead of hers. If you start to cling, she will want to move on to the next casual encounter. This goes hand in hand with being aloof. Be cool. Only cool guys have casual sex.
5. Do not get jealous – Remember; casual sex means no attachments. Jealousy means you are attached. Do not give her the idea that you want her exclusively. That is the message that jealously sends. Save that for your girlfriend. Now, you are just trying to get laid.

Now, follow all of these rules and I guarantee you will easily find many adult sex dates. Make sure you take a look at my recommended sites.

The one of the things that comes up over and over again, both in my email newsletter but also so here on my website, is the people feel they are having a conversation with sexy women on adult date, they are starting off and everything seems to be going fine and then after about 30 seconds things sort of dizzle out.

The interest seems to just disappear, the girl gets more and more kind of empty looking, her responses get shorter. You yourself interestingly enough may start to feel bored with your own conversation.

You are starting to wonder what can I talk about, what is that I need to talk about in order to make this fun and exciting.

Now you would be surprised what the reason for this actually is.

It is something different, it is not that you are just boring person or that you do not have the right topics to talk about or that somehow there is something wrong with me, it is not that at all.

It is something else, usually it is the problem that you are trying to do something that seems to be making a lot of sense which a lot of other people seem to be doing as well and that is trying to say the right thing.

You are trying to say the right thing and that is the problem.

The second you say what you feel you should say or trying to say this right thing, you are going to be saying things which girls have heard many times before.

What happens when you hear things that you have heard many times before. Well you respond automatically.

It is a bit like if I asked you right now, so where you from and you go into your general routine of explaining to me where you are from.

I mean I already knew I was grown inside when somebody asked me so.

“Oh, you are from Germany so where are you from”. Because I already know what I am going to say.

Well I am going to say “I am from this small town north of Berlin and you have probably never heard of it, it is called Neustrelitz and it is somewhere between the sea and the Berlin, in the former East Germany”.

And then people will be like: “Oh, I do not know where that is” and I will go “Well. somewhere near Berlin”.

They go: “Yeah I have been to Berlin”.

Right? That is what happens every time when I do that on my dates. So that is what a woman’s mind will go through when you ask her the kind of questions that you think you should ask.

You know when you are trying to say the right thing, when you are saying the kind of things that you think you should say in order to make the conversation work.

Do you understand what I am saying? There are many phrases, questions, sentences like that.

For example if you take a few questions like what is your name or where are you from or what you do for a living.

You know we can ask these really conventional questions all day long and you know what, nothing happens in her brain apart from “Ok… I am going to give my standard response because that is what I am condition to do because every time somebody asks me that question, I have got used to responding like this.

And then I usually get that response from them and blah blah blah.”

So it is not stimulating at all.

So what is a way to turn this around and stimulate the woman’s brain any time you speak to her.

Would that be cool to know.

Well I have a very simple concept for this. I call it say it differently.

Say It Differently

So you say it differently and that is what it means. Look there are many things that may be repetitive, that you know in a normal conversation if you are talking to a girl for the first time when you are on an adult date with a girl.

I mean heaven forbid if you are in a relationship with a girl that will be many things that you will repeat and there will be many little, small things you will say over and over again.

So what I am challenging you to do is do this, say it differently because when you something differently in a way that she has never heard before, in a way that she has not heard you say yesterday, in a way that she has never had anybody say it.

Her mind will be stimulated and she will be like: “Oh. What is happening here. This guy is different. He is saying something different”.

Even if you are not saying something mind blowing amazing like something really simple, it still stimulates the mind and it still makes her respond to you in a more immediate way.

So I will give you for an example, so maybe you can play along with me.

If you are normally ask her: “So, what is your name?”, how could you say that differently?

That is right, you have already come up with a few things in your mind.

What did your mother call you, so what should I call you, you got a nickname. These are a three versions that you can say differently right.

There is 50 billion other ways of saying this.

If you are tempted to ask her where she is from because she looks exotic or she is like this or like that.

Can you come up with a few ways of saying that differently.

Well, you have just done it in your mind, right?

Brilliant.

Anything that is basic, simple, say it differently.

Now do not get obsessed about this, so do not beat yourself up if you say something simple as well but you break it off. Make it easy for yourself, make it entertaining for yourself, make it stimulating for yourself.

You know one of the worst things about this is, many guys that work so hard they are thinking: “Oh, I have to do this right” and then they are trying to basically fall into the conventions that everybody else does and that is death, ok?

That is the death of fun, playfulness.

So by just focusing on saying it differently and keep constantly challenging yourself to not say the boring thing. You are going to make a giant step in the right direction of being a much more interesting guy to talk to.

All right, do you know what I mean. Well if you do then share this post with your friends and check out my other articles on the adult sex dating.

In the meantime let me know what you think of this. Say it differently and when you put your comment on this post, say it differently man, ok?

Take care.

Today I am going to talk about the eye contact. How to do it on your adult date or in the bar, how to actually have it, how to get over your fear of it and how to actually get started with it.

Eye Contact. Does It Matter?

Eye contact is crucial because it tells a woman who you are, it tells a woman whether you are a man or whether you are shy or insecure or uncomfortable.

If you are not able to look straight in the eye and say something to her and enjoy that process, it is unlikely that you two are going to you ever get in to the horizontal situation where you might have sexual relations with her because sooner or later, you need to be able to look her in the eye and seduce her.

How To Get Started

What you need to do first of all to get going is to get used to looking at women in the eye.

The biggest first step that you can take is actually go in the front of a mirror and look yourself in the eye.

Stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself and not flinch, breathe, relax and just start enjoying looking at yourself.

How do you do that.

By basically looking at yourself in the mirror, breathing and thinking pleasant thoughts about yourself.

Ok, like “Hey, you are good looking guy”, “I like you, you are a cool dude”.

Now this sounds a bit funny but I kid you not, most people that can not look women in the eye, can not look themselves in the eye in the mirror.

That is a great first step.

Get used to looking at women without feeling weird inside, without having you inner dialogue that goes: “Oh, I should not be doing this” or “Oh, I am a freak and creepy”… whatever.

2 Types Of Eye Contact

Eye contact is your main tool of seduction if you are in a really noisy place like in a club for example and it is really noisy bar like all the bars are in London.

When you are shouting it out on the dance floor, like you can not rely on your superb communication skills and your great flirting ability, you can not rely on that.

You have to basically just use your eyes and your body, okay?

So if you want a girl to get turned on with you when you are in the club and then you literally need to give her the “I want to make a love to you” type of the eye contact.

You can basically shouted her and she can shout back at you without hearing a word, it does not matter but if you look at her straight down in the eyes and you get close to her.

That is how you can seduce a girl, right there on the dance floor.

I do not this very often these days because I am not really in clubs a lot but that is how you would do it in a club or in a really noisy bar.

Whenever you want to really escalate things, whenever you want to get her to start thinking about sex, that is when you want to get close enough and look straight at her, straight into her eyes and you stick with a one eye.

You do not switch from the left to the right all the time that is something you learn when you are an actor, you do not do that.

Pick one eye and then you are looking into that eye.

So get as close as you want if you want to do that and then use your eyes to basically make her feel tingly inside and yourself in the process.

Now the key thing with this is you need to enjoy it if you want to pull this off.

So start practicing and enjoy the process, you need to feel tingly inside as well as it needs to make you feel excited about being there.

You can not be like do that and at the same time pretend you are not interested in her.

Eye contact when you do it like that it is like it is full on and it means “Hey, you and me, you know what we are going to be doing”.

You can shorten that whole process I have just described and say in your mind “You want me, right.”

That is what you need to think if you have that kind of eye contact.

Now another kind of eye contact that is really useful and I just want to give it a name.

I would call it a fascinated eye contact.

So say you are on an adult date basically saying in your mind and note how this all has to do with you how you think.

You are saying in your mind “Hey, you are fascinating” and when you speak to her, you are thinking “You are fascinating” and it is also going to make you actually feel fascinated by her which is a good thing and it is okay as a man you can be fascinated with her, with a woman and you can enjoy that process and you can let that show a little bit.

That fascinated mindset is my secret weapon to actually, even when I am not like in the best state if I just say one: “I am fascinated by you”, “You are fascinating”, all of sudden I click into the right state and women say “Oh, you have got beautiful eyes” or “I like your smile” or whatever because they notice that I am actually really starting to click into them.

It also gives you that the real connection with a woman.

So when you are like not sure how your eye contact is or you feel self conscious, go beyond that by basically saying “You are fascinating” in your mind.

It will make you self conscious about yourself and it will give you the kind of right eye contact that you need when you are on a sex date, when you are talking to a girl for her to actually know that you are interested in her.

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Lastly if you have a comment to make, if you have a personal experience with an eye contact on your adult sex date, you want to share it, you want to share something that you disagree or you agree with what I said, go here below and try out these two modes of eye contact because those are probably the best shortcuts I can give you.

I will see you soon.

I want to tell you what truly makes a sexy woman want to have a sex with you on your adult date and without it you will never be able to have sex with any woman ever.

Not only I will tell you what it is that makes a woman want to sleep with you but I am also going to tell you what you can do about it.

You see women are a lot of different from men. As far as generalizations go they tend to be a little bit more emotional and there is a lot of different switches that you need to flip in order to turn her on.

But what most men do not know is that there is one switch that is the most important and if it is not flipped you are screwed.

Well actually you are not screwed, get it.

Ok so what is it already that makes her want you in her bed.

It Is Trust

Trust is the key component to make no girls say:

“Ok, I will have sex with this guy” and guess what it is always there in every sexual situation. It is interesting how specific this is to women too.

Let me ask you a question. If an attractive girl want to sleep with you, would you ask yourself: Do I trust this woman?

I guess is probably not it is just not as an important factor to men as it is to women.

Women have to be careful of so many things. One of them is pregnancy, in their mind they have to be careful because one false move with one partner could end up in a nine month ordeal.

You know what I mean.

Speaking on evolutionary terms, a woman needs to trust a man because she needs to know that this man is capable of being someone who can stick around and help raise a child.

Now a woman might not be thinking this on a conscious level but it is in her DNA to make sure that she can trust the men that she has sex with.

With all this being said, how can you build trust with a woman so she truly desires you sexually.

Here is my first tip:

Vulnerability Goes A Long Way

If you can tell her something about you that is maybe a little bit more hidden or secret and she will feel a special connection to you and she will start to think that you trust her which in turn makes her trust you.

So tell her something that you are not good at.

Tell her an issue that you are having at work or even ask her advice on something.

But the key here is that you only want to do this just the little bit if you do it too much then you risk being too beta.

So a little goes a long way.

Here is another tip to gain trust of the woman.

Let Her Know That She Is Safe With You

If you are on a date make sure you walk on the outside of the sidewalk closer to the street, open the door for her on your adult sex date, exhibit as much chivalry as you possibly can so you can be the protector.

Another thing you can do is to try to:

Introduce Her To Your Friends

Having a solid group of friends can make her feel really comfortable. Especially if those friends are girls. She can think well, if these people must like him then there must be something about this guy that is cool and trustworthy.

Here is the one last tip.

If you want to go to trust you then you must:

Show Her You Care About What She Is Saying To You

Getting really involved in your conversation, listen to what she is saying, ask her personal questions about herself and tell her personal things about you.

When she sees that you give a shit then she will start to build all forms of trust.

Here is a bonus if she sees you playing with a dog or a kid then she can expect that you have what it takes to care for something other than yourself.

Those are some of the ways that you can gain trust with the woman and once you gain trust and she got been able to trust you in the bedroom.

Of course what I do not want you to do is to fake this. These are really powerful tips and one can use them to manipulate or deceive a woman only want to perform these acts if you really mean it.

Now if you want more on how to seduce and get a woman desiring you sexually, I highly suggest you check out my other posts.

Thanks so much for reading. Do not forget to visit my site regularly and I will see you on the next post.