Today I am going to talk about the eye contact. How to do it on your adult date or in the bar, how to actually have it, how to get over your fear of it and how to actually get started with it.
Eye Contact. Does It Matter?
Eye contact is crucial because it tells a woman who you are, it tells a woman whether you are a man or whether you are shy or insecure or uncomfortable.
If you are not able to look straight in the eye and say something to her and enjoy that process, it is unlikely that you two are going to you ever get in to the horizontal situation where you might have sexual relations with her because sooner or later, you need to be able to look her in the eye and seduce her.
How To Get Started
What you need to do first of all to get going is to get used to looking at women in the eye.
The biggest first step that you can take is actually go in the front of a mirror and look yourself in the eye.
Stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself and not flinch, breathe, relax and just start enjoying looking at yourself.
How do you do that.
By basically looking at yourself in the mirror, breathing and thinking pleasant thoughts about yourself.
Ok, like “Hey, you are good looking guy”, “I like you, you are a cool dude”.
Now this sounds a bit funny but I kid you not, most people that can not look women in the eye, can not look themselves in the eye in the mirror.
That is a great first step.
Get used to looking at women without feeling weird inside, without having you inner dialogue that goes: “Oh, I should not be doing this” or “Oh, I am a freak and creepy”… whatever.
2 Types Of Eye Contact
Eye contact is your main tool of seduction if you are in a really noisy place like in a club for example and it is really noisy bar like all the bars are in London.
When you are shouting it out on the dance floor, like you can not rely on your superb communication skills and your great flirting ability, you can not rely on that.
You have to basically just use your eyes and your body, okay?
So if you want a girl to get turned on with you when you are in the club and then you literally need to give her the “I want to make a love to you” type of the eye contact.
You can basically shouted her and she can shout back at you without hearing a word, it does not matter but if you look at her straight down in the eyes and you get close to her.
That is how you can seduce a girl, right there on the dance floor.
I do not this very often these days because I am not really in clubs a lot but that is how you would do it in a club or in a really noisy bar.
Whenever you want to really escalate things, whenever you want to get her to start thinking about sex, that is when you want to get close enough and look straight at her, straight into her eyes and you stick with a one eye.
You do not switch from the left to the right all the time that is something you learn when you are an actor, you do not do that.
Pick one eye and then you are looking into that eye.
So get as close as you want if you want to do that and then use your eyes to basically make her feel tingly inside and yourself in the process.
Now the key thing with this is you need to enjoy it if you want to pull this off.
So start practicing and enjoy the process, you need to feel tingly inside as well as it needs to make you feel excited about being there.
You can not be like do that and at the same time pretend you are not interested in her.
Eye contact when you do it like that it is like it is full on and it means “Hey, you and me, you know what we are going to be doing”.
You can shorten that whole process I have just described and say in your mind “You want me, right.”
That is what you need to think if you have that kind of eye contact.
Now another kind of eye contact that is really useful and I just want to give it a name.
I would call it a fascinated eye contact.
So say you are on an adult date basically saying in your mind and note how this all has to do with you how you think.
You are saying in your mind “Hey, you are fascinating” and when you speak to her, you are thinking “You are fascinating” and it is also going to make you actually feel fascinated by her which is a good thing and it is okay as a man you can be fascinated with her, with a woman and you can enjoy that process and you can let that show a little bit.
That fascinated mindset is my secret weapon to actually, even when I am not like in the best state if I just say one: “I am fascinated by you”, “You are fascinating”, all of sudden I click into the right state and women say “Oh, you have got beautiful eyes” or “I like your smile” or whatever because they notice that I am actually really starting to click into them.
It also gives you that the real connection with a woman.
So when you are like not sure how your eye contact is or you feel self conscious, go beyond that by basically saying “You are fascinating” in your mind.
It will make you self conscious about yourself and it will give you the kind of right eye contact that you need when you are on a sex date, when you are talking to a girl for her to actually know that you are interested in her.
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Lastly if you have a comment to make, if you have a personal experience with an eye contact on your adult sex date, you want to share it, you want to share something that you disagree or you agree with what I said, go here below and try out these two modes of eye contact because those are probably the best shortcuts I can give you.
I will see you soon.